Knowing Your Child in the Physical World Is Only Knowing Half of Your Child

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I recently watched a powerful interview on the Shawn Ryan Show with Elizabeth Phillips, and it stayed with me.

Elizabeth is the founder of No More Victims and Executive Director of the Phillips Foundation. Her mission is personal: her younger brother, Trey, died by suicide in 2019 after childhood sexual abuse at Kanakuk Kamps. The abuse was hidden for years because of a strict NDA.

When someone with her experience speaks, every parent should listen.

How Predators Use “Innocent” Apps Like Venmo

Elizabeth explained something every parent needs to understand:

Predators no longer hide in dark corners of the internet. They use the same apps our kids use every day.

Venmo is one example.

Teens use it to split bills or get paid for babysitting. But Venmo mixes a digital wallet with a social feed, and that gives predators an easy way in.

Here’s how the grooming often starts:

  • 👉 A small payment from a stranger
  • 👉 A friendly compliment about the teen’s profile photo : “You look like you could be a model.”

If the teen replies, the predator pushes further.

  • 👉 A bigger payment
  • 👉 A request for a “more personal” photo

Not sexual at first. Just “exclusive.”

But the moment that photo is sent, the tone changes. Flattery becomes pressure. Requests become threats.

This is how Sextortion starts, blackmail that traps kids in fear and shame.

Silence Makes Everything Worse

Elizabeth’s story about Trey teaches an important lesson:

Abuse grows in the dark.

Whether it’s hidden by an NDA or hidden inside an app, the result is the same: The child feels alone.

And this is the reality of modern parenting.

We would never let our child walk alone into a dangerous neighborhood. But when we give them a smartphone, we unknowingly open a direct channel to anyone, good or bad.

Many apps are too complex for parents to set up safely. And kids end up navigating the digital world on their own.

The Couch Illusion

A child can be sitting right next to us on the couch… and still be facing a serious threat online.

We often have no idea:

  • Who they talk to
  • What content they see
  • Whether someone is trying to groom them

Being in the same room is no longer enough.

Parents Don’t Need to Spy – They Need Visibility

Parents today face challenges our parents never had.

We don’t want to invade our child’s privacy. We just want to know when something is wrong, so we can step in.

This is why, in PureSight , we built Surfie.

Not as a firewall. But as a tool that gives parents the visibility they need:

  • ✅ Detects grooming, sextortion, and bullying in real time
  • ✅ Alerts parents when kids are exposed to harmful content
  • ✅ Shows which apps they use and if they are age-appropriate

Surfie doesn’t replace parenting. It supports it.

Breaking the Silence Together

Elizabeth Phillips is working hard to change laws and stop the silence that destroyed her brother. As parents, builders, and leaders, we need to make sure that same silence doesn’t happen in our homes.

Our children live in two worlds today:

  • 🌍 The physical world
  • 💻 The digital world

To protect them, we must be present in both.

Let’s make sure no child faces these dangers alone.

cyberbulllying, Cyberbullying, Digital Parenting, prevention, safe internet use, social media

The Illusion of Safety: Why Parental Intuition is No Longer Enough in the Digital Age

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I recently came across a disturbing news report that every parent needs to read. In Israel, a mother’s intuition saved her 10-year-old son from a predatory situation involving his own teacher. The mother noticed messages arriving at odd hours, spotted behavioral changes in her child, and decided to investigate. She discovered a stream of inappropriate, intimate messages sent by an authority figure the child trusted.

This mother saved her child, and she deserves credit. But this story is scary. It proves that keeping kids safe today is very difficult.

The “Living Room” Paradox

We live in a time where the concept of “safety” has fundamentally shifted. In the past, if our children were sitting on the sofa next to us, we knew they were safe. Today, that physical proximity is an illusion.

A child can be sitting two feet away from their parents, safely inside their home, yet be virtually transported to a dangerous environment. They could be dealing with cyberbullying, exposed to toxic trends, or, as in the recent news story, being groomed by a predator.

The scary reality is that for every parent who manages to catch that one suspicious message in time, there are countless others who might miss it. And it isn’t their fault.

The Data Overload Challenge

Let’s be realistic about the digital landscape our children inhabit. The average child receives and sends hundreds of messages a day across WhatsApp, Instagram, TikTok, and gaming chats.

Expecting a parent to manually read through every single line of text to find a potential threat is not only invasive to the child’s privacy, but it is also practically impossible. It is like trying to find a specific grain of sand on a beach.

If we rely solely on manual checks or “lucky” intuition, we are leaving our children’s safety to chance.

Bridging the Gap with AI

This specific challenge is the driving force behind PureSight and our solution, Surfie. We realized early on that parents don’t need to see everything; they need to see what matters.

We developed Surfie to act as a smart digital filter. Using advanced Artificial Intelligence, the system monitors social platforms and messaging apps, but it doesn’t just record text, it analyzes context.

  1. Event Detection: The AI is trained to recognize the distinct patterns of cyberbullying, predatory grooming (pedophiles), and distress.
  2. Contextual Awareness: It distinguishes between friendly banter and dangerous interactions.
  3. Real-Time Alerts: Instead of handing the parent a transcript of 500 messages, Surfie stays silent until a red line is crossed.

How Technology Could Have Changed the Narrative

Returning to the story of the 10-year-old boy: Had a solution like Surfie been active on his device, the outcome wouldn’t have depended on the mother noticing a late-night notification.

The system would have analyzed the content of the conversation. It would have flagged the inappropriate language and the suspicious nature of the dialogue coming from an adult figure. The mother would have received an immediate alert on her phone, showing her the specific problematic exchange, allowing her to intervene instantly, perhaps even weeks before she eventually did.

Moving From Reaction to Prevention

As parents, we provide our children with smartphones to keep them connected and safe. Yet, without the right tools, those same devices open a door we cannot easily close.

We need to normalize the use of digital parenting tools not as “spying,” but as essential safety gear, like a seatbelt or a bicycle helmet. Solutions like Surfie are designed to respect the child’s privacy while ensuring that when a threat arises, the parent is the first to know.

We cannot control the internet, but we can control how we equip ourselves to handle it. Let’s take the burden of “luck” out of the equation.

cyberbulllying, Digital Parenting, online child safety, prevention, regulation, safe internet use

What is the “Ghostlighting” Dating Trend?

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The “Ghostlighting” Dating Trend

A concerning new dating behavior called “Ghostlighting” is emerging in online relationship culture. The term blends ghosting, which means cutting off contact without explanation, with gaslighting, which means manipulating someone into doubting their own perception of reality. In ghostlighting, a partner suddenly disappears from communication, only to later return and deny any wrongdoing, often suggesting the other person misunderstood or overreacted.

Experts warn that ghostlighting can be emotionally damaging, leaving individuals confused, anxious, and questioning their own memory or judgment. This tactic can erode self-esteem, create distrust in future relationships, and in some cases be part of a broader pattern of emotional manipulation.

The trend is reportedly being amplified by dating apps and social media. Disappearing and reappearing in someone’s life can be done with minimal effort and little accountability in these digital spaces. The casual nature of online connections makes it easier for ghostlighters to avoid confrontation while still keeping someone emotionally tethered.

How Teens Can Be Influenced?

Teens who are new to dating, particularly in the fast-paced and always-connected world of messaging apps and social media, may be especially vulnerable to ghostlighting. Many are still developing the emotional resilience, communication skills, and self-worth needed to navigate relationships. Experiencing ghostlighting at a young age can:

  • Normalize unhealthy relationship patterns and lower expectations for respect and clear communication.

  • Distort self-image by making teens doubt their instincts and judgment when told they overreacted.

  • Create emotional dependency, as the unpredictable cycle of disappearance and return fuels a craving for the ghostlighter’s validation.

  • Increase social stress, since online platforms can make these dynamics public, which may lead to embarrassment or peer pressure.

For impressionable teens, the mix of romantic interest, online visibility, and emotional manipulation can create a lasting impact on how they view trust, boundaries, and self-worth in future relationships.

Protecting Against Ghostlighting

At PureSight, we use advanced AI tools to detect manipulative text and recognize ghostlighting behaviors in real time. We track activity across social media, messaging apps, and gaming platforms, identifying new and disturbing trends as they emerge.

When signs of toxic behavior appear—such as sudden disappearance followed by denial or blame-shifting—we send timely alerts to parents. This allows families to step in, support their teen, and address the issue before it escalates.

By combining early detection with practical guidance, PureSight helps parents safeguard their children’s emotional well-being and teach them what healthy relationships should look like, both online and offline.

David Gil,

Research team lead at PureSight

Gaslighting, Ghosting, online child safety, prevention

Who Will Take on This Global Mission to Protect Our Children Online?

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Who Will Take on This Global Mission to Protect Our Children Online?

Recently, two young girls in Israel, just 7 and 10 years old, were rushed to the hospital after swallowing coins. One of them even required surgery to remove the coin from her airway. The reason? A viral TikTok challenge where children attempt to “make a coin disappear” and pull it out of their mouths.

Following these incidents, a hospital doctor issued a warning to parents: “We discovered a TikTok challenge caused this. Parents, especially now during the summer vacation, please pay close attention to what your children are doing online, and explain the risks to them.”

The Age Factor Matters

The critical point here is age. Social media trends and pressures are already influencing children as young as 7.

These platforms don’t just affect teens; they shape behaviors at even younger ages, when kids are most vulnerable.

Australia has already taken bold action, passing legislation that bans children under 16 from using platforms like TikTok, Snapchat, and, more recently, YouTube. While I’m not sure how practical or enforceable such laws will be, I also don’t believe in completely blocking platforms that have become deeply embedded in modern life. Social media can carry risks—but it also provides opportunities and benefits.

A Balanced Approach: Delay, Then Guide

What I do believe in is delaying exposure. Parents and communities should work together to postpone the age at which children join digital platforms, helping reduce social pressure on any single child. And when the time comes for them to enter the digital world, they must not walk in alone.

Just as we guide our kids in the physical world, teaching them how to cross the street safely or how to handle difficult social situations, we must also guide them in the digital world. Sitting on the couch while your child scrolls on their phone, with no idea who they’re talking to, what they’re watching, or what challenges they’re trying, is no longer acceptable.

Parents Must Step In

The first generation of parents largely dismissed this responsibility, saying, “There’s nothing we can do.” But today, an increasing number of parents understand that digital safety is our responsibility. And thankfully, there are services and technologies available that allow parents to be informed and provide guidance, even when their children are using personal devices and social media platforms.

Regulation: Privacy vs. Protection

Here lies one of the greatest challenges of our time: balancing children’s right to privacy with the need for protective monitoring. To keep kids safe, we must allow authorized services to collect limited, transparent data on children’s online activities, not to sell, not to exploit, but to alert parents when risks arise and intervention is needed.

This is a complex challenge, but solvable. A global standard can be created: when a child’s profile is active on a device, authorized safety services should be able to monitor activity, while ensuring data is shared only with the parents, in a transparent and regulated way.

A Call to Action

This, in my view, should be the mission of global regulation. Not just banning access. Not just turning a blind eye. But creating a structured, transparent framework where parents can fulfill their duty to guide and protect their children in the digital world.

So I ask: Who will take on this global mission?

CEO @ PureSight | Global expert on Online Child Safety, developing platforms and services for the global market.

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🎮 Games, Manipulation, and Our Role as Digital Parents

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🎮 Games, Manipulation, and Our Role as Digital Parents

In 2024, over 3.3 billion people around the world played video games. Games have become one of the most dominant entertainment platforms globally — enjoyed by children, teens, and adults alike. They are exciting, interactive, and often social. But beneath the fun, there’s a serious problem that many parents, and even regulators, are only beginning to truly understand.

Earlier this year, between March 31 and April 11, 2025, the International Consumer Protection and Enforcement Network (ICPEN) conducted a global sweep of 439 mobile and online games. The results were alarming.

🧠 What They Found: Games Use Manipulation by Design

ICPEN’s sweep revealed that many games use manipulative design techniques – psychological tactics built into the game experience to keep players engaged longer and spending more. These methods are used on all players, but they’re especially dangerous for children.

The most common tactics included:

  • Sneaking – hiding critical information from players (like costs or limits).
  • Nagging – constant reminders or pressure to make in-game purchases.
  • Obstruction – making it hard to skip or avoid certain actions unless you pay or wait.

In addition, many games use “urgency tricks”, messages like “Limited Time Offer” or “Only 2 Left!” to make players feel like they have to act fast. ICPEN found that some of these offers were not even real; they were just pressure tactics.

🎮 Even Games for 3-Year-Olds Use These Tricks

What’s perhaps most disturbing is that these manipulative techniques aren’t just in games for teenagers or adults. ICPEN found that:

  • Loot boxes, in-game purchases, and ads are just as common in games rated for ages 3 and up as in other games.
  • Only 30% of games that included loot boxes actually disclosed this in the game’s download page or description.

So not only are our kids exposed to this, we often don’t even know it’s happening.

👨👩👧👦 Our Kids Are Up Against Experts. They Need Us.

As parents, we must face a difficult truth: When our children play these games, they are not just having fun. They are being influenced by teams of professionals, game designers, behavioral scientists, and monetization experts, all working to keep them playing and spending.

It’s not a fair fight. Our kids are just kids. They don’t know how to resist these tactics, and why should they? Even adults often fall into the same traps.

That’s why we, the parents, need to step in.

We must:

  • Know how much time our children spend on screens.
  • Understand what they’re doing during that time.
  • Talk to them openly about what’s okay and what’s not.
  • Help them break habits that lead to addiction or overspending.

🧭 But That’s Easier Said Than Done

The truth is, today’s parents are dealing with challenges that didn’t exist a generation ago. Give a child a smartphone, and in seconds, they can access games, chat with strangers, or be exposed to content we wouldn’t approve of, all from the safety of the living room couch.

You don’t see who they’re talking to. You don’t hear what they’re seeing. And unless you have tools in place, you may not even know how much time they’re online.

🛡️ Digital Parenting Tools Are No Longer Optional

At PureSight , we’ve made it our mission to help families take back control. Not by spying on children, but by giving parents real visibility and the ability to have open, meaningful conversations with their kids.

We believe that:

  • Screen time tracking should be standard in every household.
  • Parents should be able to see what their kids are exposed to, and decide what’s appropriate.
  • And most of all, children deserve to be protected, not manipulated.

This is not about control. It’s about guidance, responsibility, and care.

🔚 We Can’t Change the Whole Digital World – But We Can Change How We Parent in It

The digital world isn’t going away. If anything, it’s only becoming more immersive, more targeted, and more complex.

But that doesn’t mean we’re powerless. It means we must adapt, as parents, as educators, and as a society.

Let’s stop pretending that a simple parental warning or a 3+ age rating is enough. Let’s give our children the tools, support, and protection they need to grow up safe and strong in the digital world.

And let’s start today.

Royi Cohen

CEO @ PureSight | Global expert on Online Child Safety, developing platforms and services for the global market.
Digital Parenting, online child safety, prevention, screen addiction, time limits
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